Cat-callers are the public equivalent to some guy in a club.

Last night yielded this somewhat profound realization.

Let set the premises...

1. Guys who yell stuff on the street at women are trying to get laid.
2. These guys are under the impression this method is effective (maybe for some it is)
3. Their basic stance is that you can not get a girl's phone number if you don't say anything (there may be something to this)
4. I don't think much thought is put into what is actually said. The mission is to get a girl's attention. By any means necessary.
5. Even catcallers admit that this is easier done when not-sober.

oh and women have yet to figure out the formula of what men yell at and why. We also think these guys are jokes.

1. Guys in bars who approach women are trying to get laid.
2. These guys are under the impression this method is effective (and for a lot it is)
3. Their basic stance is that you can not get a girl's phone number if you don't say anything. (there is definitely something to this)
4. I don't think much thought is put into what is actually said. The mission is to get a girl's attention. By any means necessary.
5. Even guys in bars admit this is easier done when not-sober.

You see the similarities? Women, as a group, kind of don't.

I give you a second to let that sink in.

Now that we have the premises... let's talk about the disconnects. The differences if you will.
1. For the most part, being in a bar requires $. On the street does not. This sort of suggests that have some form of income.
2. Being in a bar gives you more diversity in they type of guys that approach you. As opposed to say... a certain type of minority using a certain type of vernacular.
3. Being approached in a bar is far less embarrassing and is less scary.
4. Women are more relaxed in bars. and usually more open to being approached.
5. Plus it helps that most decent bars have some sort of dress code or an idea of what is acceptable and more importantly... what is not.

In both scenarios... neither guy is looking for a fulfilling long-lasting committed relationship. At least not there.

My basic stance on guy in a bar... is that you are there for entertainment purposes. Maybe that is why I lack a proper boyfriend... because there are just situations I don't take seriously. I usually don't give my # out. I'll take the guy's #. But the chances I'm going to call are next to you hitting the lottery... again this is not about me.

So what about the idea that calling a woman out on the street is an exertion of dominance and an overt power struggle... is it less so in a bar? The female perception is that it is. Yes he may be doing it to impress his friends. Yes he may talk trash the minute you leave. But it is easier for women to believe that the bar situation had something to do with US (and in some cases I'm sure it does).

We all want that bit of romance that begins "We locked eyes from across the room and I was instantly drawn to her/him..." But on the street... if you don't look pretty freakin impressive... the chances of that scenario going that way are not good.

So final analysis... If you're looking to pick up women... stick to the bars. If you desperately trying to pick someone up on the street... You'd better be hot and start with the first words you learn in every language "Good Morning/Afternoon/ Evening" and "My name is..."